Yes I am typical

June 25^th, 2007

I have been consumed by community issues and the Foundation's work to address these issues. I've not had great success in collaboration in one of our major community initiatives as of late and it is increasingly frustrating. So for those people who represent our area nonprofit organizations who are tired of hearing about having to collaborate in order to receive funding, I feel your pain!

However, collaboration and the difficulties involved are also touching my private life! A double whammy! As a baby boomer, I am experiencing all the usual indicators of this aging generation. Surprising new "features" that accompany growing older as I look in the mirror, aches that didn't exist a week ago, and when did all the Hollywood set get so young?! But it is the relationship with my mom that is really difficult while collaborating with all involved.

My sister and I have been working for more than 18 months to assure that my 86 year old mother is safe, secure and comfortable after she experienced a health crisis last year that led to moving into a senior housing community. Her home is prepared for sale and of course this is not the best time in Michigan to be selling a private residence. However, we have no choice.

The difficulty is that members in my family have completely different communication styles and my mom is feeling isolated, out of the loop, frustrated, downright angry and does not understand why all of this is happening.

I truly feel like a typical baby boomer and while this entry does not have much to do with philanthropy, in truth it does. We have an initiative that is looking at how older citizens can experience meaningful work and activities to feel productive and frankly happy. As I reflect on trying to make new paths for seniors here in West Michigan, I think of how all of this could have had an impact on my mom.

I keep moving forward - collaboration is difficult and most often downright frustrating. I am optimistic that things will work out!